14 Signs You're Being a Great Parent, Even When You're in Doubt

Updated on 9/13/2023 at 2:55 PM

Parenthood is like the ultimate rollercoaster, filled with thrilling twists and heartwarming turns, and sometimes a few unexpected loop-de-loops. But adding to the chaos of parenting is the fact that we're kind of doing it blind. We never really know if we're doing a good job — we don't get gold stickers like in grade school or make the honor roll when our efforts stand out. Plus, there's no one-size-fits-all manual for parenting, and every parent-child relationship is unique, so we're often thinking on the fly and hoping for the best.

Since we don't get a report card at the end of each quarter like we did at school or a performance report like work, it's always a good idea to remind yourself or to remind a fellow parent that they're rocking it. Whether you're a seasoned pro or just starting this wild journey called parenthood, these 14 signs will not only validate your amazing efforts but also remind you that parenting is all in the heart.

You Listen Actively

Active listening — which means listening not only to the words that are being said but also the non-verbal cues — helps parents understand their kiddos feelings and needs. This practice helps strengthen your bond with your kids thanks to the developed trust.

You Embrace the Mess

Raising kids isn't a journey without hiccups — it's messy and sometime chaotic. But it's actually better for everyone if you embrace the mess. Experts have said that kids who are allowed to make messes and explore develop greater creativity.

You Promote Independence

It can be really hard to let our kids explore the world, make mistakes, and try new things, but allowing them independence helps boost their self-esteem and decision-making skills, according to research. So, if your child occasionally leaves the house proud while wearing mismatched socks and colors that don't "go together", you're doing a great job.

You Apologize, Too

Owning up to your mistakes and apologizing when necessary sets a great example for your child. It models how you communicate when you've made a mistake while, at the same time, fostering an environment where they see that everyone makes mistakes and that's OK.

You're a Problem-Solving Pro

In parenting, there is no simple rulebook to follow so thinking on your toes is really important. If your kiddo has blown out their diaper and it was the last one you have with you in the middle of the playground, this skill develops quickly, and it's a sign that you're really invested and doing great.

You Prioritize Sleep

Getting enough rest is crucial for your well-being and your ability to be a great parent. Research suggests that parents who prioritize sleep not only feel more energized but also have better emotional regulation, which can positively impact their parenting skills. Also, before long, you'll master the art of the "quiet exit," where you can leave their room without waking them up.

Your Child Finds You When They Need Advice

Being your child's go-to person for advice is a clear sign that your kid feels really comfortable and safe with you. Often, this happens because you've developed the strong bond that comes with being consistently safe and that there's a real true trust between you.

You Practice Patience

Patience truly is a virtue in parenthood. Being able to stay calm and composed in challenging situations is linked to better child outcomes. Research has even connected parental patience with enhanced child emotional regulation skills in something called "co-regulation."

You’re a Memory Maker

Creating lasting memories with your child is a beautiful part of parenthood, and it doesn't have to be anything extravagant like a trip to Disney World. Everyday memories made talking and eating together, reading a book, jumping in rain puddles, and laughing together during a Bluey episode all contribute to those happy memories.

You’re a "Why" Answerer

Answering your child's endless "why" questions with patience and enthusiasm shows your commitment to their curiosity and learning. While it certainly can get on your last nerve, it helps to foster a love for knowledge and exploration. And they're asking you because there's that established love and trust between you.

You Teach Responsibility

Research indicates that children who learn to take on responsibilities at a young age tend to develop better organizational and time management skills. "Children who do chores may exhibit higher self-esteem, be more responsible, and be better equipped to deal with frustration, adversity, and delayed gratification," the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry explains. It's not easy being the person who doles out the tasks, but you're doing a good job even if your teen is rolling their eyes at you.

You Worry About Being a Good Parent

If you are already worrying about whether or not you're a good parent, signs point to the fact that yes, you are. Worry (as long as it's not excessive and interfering with your life), shows how much you care, and that translates to the kids, too.

You Set Boundaries and Say the Word “No”

Establishing clear boundaries is essential for your child's development, but of course, kids will push back on them, and it can cause some tension, which may lead you to wonder if you're doing this parenting thing right. But saying no and setting limits as well as consequences can contribute to their emotional and behavioral growth.

You Love Unconditionally

Research consistently shows that children who feel loved and supported by their parents are more likely to have healthy self-esteem and strong interpersonal relationships. Showing your kids that you love them and that your actions speak just as loudly as your words mean you're doing amazing.